Best Couple

When boy and girl first together, they normally will encountered many of the problems in their relationships because they known that they were different in terms of attitude, mindset and even experience. However, they were able to overcome all these problems and one of the secrets of their success was good communication between boy and girl.

Generally, they communicated among themselves are well because they spoke different languages. When they had problems, they can bring out the problems and get it over with. Let say, the boy and girl talk in same languages however the way they were used produce different meanings and understanding. Their expressions were similar and they end up with different connotations or feelings emphasis. In all the relationships, misinterpreting between couple is something that very easy to occur and it is not something new. So when communication problems between partners move out, they assumed it was just misunderstandings and that with a little help from third party they would surely understand each other. All this stage, they already experienced a trust and acceptance that we rarely experience today.

Certainly every boy and girl ultimately has all these twelve kinds of love requirement. For your information, the six kinds of love primarily required by girl also sometime imply to boy requirements. In other words, sometime boy also require attention, understanding, respect, loyalty, validation, and reassurance in their love. However most of these require apply to girl but it have some possibility apply to boy. Besides that, ‘What is meant by “primary requirement”? Well, some people say that it is basic requirement that need fulfilled before one of the party in relationship able fully to receive and appreciate the other kinds of love.

A boy becomes fully receptive to or appreciative after his own primary requirement is fulfilled. In other words, a boy will become giving after his own love requirement such approval are received from his partner.  This concept apply to girl as well, before she can truly value appreciate these kinds of love, she must first of all achieve her primary requirement.

In order to improve your relationship, understanding each other primary requirement are extremely important and it make determine whether your relationship will last long or not.

Good Marital Status4 Human

Marriage counseling and therapy won’t fix a marriage that is wrong from the start

I just knew the marriage could not work. I knew that marriage counseling would not work. There was nothing to “save.” I went to a convention and I shook off the shackles [of my unhappy marriage] and felt enlightened, alive, and confident. I had not felt this way in so long! I took off my ring and declared myself free. I came home and he was crying. I told him I was moving in with my parents. How could this marriage possibly work when he was either screaming at me or crying? My parents did not understand why the marriage was over. I was ashamed to tell them the real reasons I was leaving. I didn’t want to tell them about his drug and drinking habits. I didn’t want to talk about his anger and depression. I really didn’t want to tell them that I knew the marriage was a mistake in the first place! How could an educated person like me be so dumb? I felt like my mom did not trust me; she was resentful. She was upset our marriage was breaking up. She kept asking me, “When are you going back home?”  When I packed up, I had sobbing fits; I finally told my mom the truth. I was overcome with shame. I just decided: “Let’s get on with this.” It was very painful

I was tired of trying to be someone I wasn’t. I wanted him to grow up. I left. I only took half of our belongings. I left a lot behind. I found an apartment all by myself — it was the first time in my life I was all alone. It was really, really hard. I cried for weeks. What was I crying for? I had an aching pain that I could nothing about. I had given eight years of my life to this relationship — all for nothing. I was angry with myself for being blind to who he really was, even though it had been in front of me the whole time. I blamed myself for a lot of It — I had failed at marriage.

The pain and sense of failure is hard to imagine — until it’s your life and your divorce

I was so unhappy. I was such an overachiever I was ashamed to admit I was getting a divorce. I could not sleep and would take a Sominex and have a light beer every night in order to sleep. I avoided my friends. My dad finally called and said I have a lawyer for you. At that point, I realized my husband had hidden all of the assets.

How could I — a strong, independent woman let myself get into this position? I had a long haul to forgive myself. It was hard to look back and believe that was me.

I felt a lot of self-hate over the divorce. I felt like a failure. I tried to never think about it.

Wouldn’t you rather deal with a breakup or a canceled wedding than any of the above?  If you find yourself saying “….we can always get a divorce” it’s time to sit up, take charge and find the courage to end your relationship. Talk to a trusted friend, an advisor, a therapist—anyone who can help you tap into the courage you need to get out. We know it is always easier said than done. But you CAN do it. Here is some final advice from women who have been there:

Listen to your gut instincts. Where does your true happiness lie? Pay attention to those red flags. Remember, when you’re in the bottom of the barrel, you can’t see the top. Cut your losses, move on, and don’t throw good years away. I had feelings of unworthiness and worthlessness. My poor self-esteem got me into trouble, into the mess I found myself in. If I had been more secure, I would have never gone through with the wedding. You must be able to support yourself and live on your own. Do not be afraid to do this!

Never use marriage as a crutch for your issues, family problems, tragedies or even pregnancy.  If you are having second thoughts, listen to your intuition.  Talk to family members and friends who can see the relationship from the outside. They may have a better perspective.

Don’t get caught in the trap of “When I marry him, I’ll change him.” And don’t think that fatherhood will change him for the better, because it won’t. If you suspect he won’t be a very good father, you are probably right. Do not marry him because he will not change.

Do I wish I could do it all over again differently? Sure. I wish I would have waited for true love like I have now. My (current) husband is my best friend, lover, partner, confidant and father to my children. My ex-husband married the 15-year-old baby-sitter and had two kids with her. He is almost 50 years old and is still an asshole to me, his children and now his new wife. If your gut says run — you must run! No matter what, you must listen to your gut. It knows you better than you know yourself. It’s your internal warning siren!

Divorce in Human life

Most parents of children with autism are acutely aware of the issues that come with the diagnosis and particularly, how stress affects their marriage. So what does the research say about autism and divorce? One study published by Hartley etal. showed that parents who had a child with autism had a higher divorce rate than parents without a child with autism.  However, a more recent study presented in 2010 by Dr. Brian Freedman of the Kennedy Krieger Institute found there was no increase in divorce rates. According to their research, "64% of children with autism lived with married or adoptive parents compared to a rate of 65% for children with no autism diagnosis".

The subject of divorce and autism is important in that parents of a newly diagnosed child may read an article about higher divorce rates and assume that their marriage is automatically at risk for divorce. Also, if a couple already has a strained marriage prior to the diagnosis, they may think that divorce is unavoidable. While there are strong emotions resulting from a diagnosis and there can be significant stress involved with raising a child with autism, do parents who subsequently get divorced primarily divorce because of the autism? 

As a parent of a child with autism, who was divorced, I believe that a diagnosis of autism is similar to any other great life stressor. However, in addition to stress, the autism diagnosis frequently is a life changing event for the parents of the child as well as the entire family unit. Therefore, if a marriage is strong, the couple may weather the storm over time and possibly come out stronger. But for couples who are already having difficulties in their marriage, autism is a stressor that can become the proverbial straw that breaks the camel's back. And for those couples, autism becomes yet another reason to divorce.

In an effort to examine parent perceptions of divorce and autism, I conducted a survey of other divorced parents who have a child with autism. Do parents believe that autism was the primary reason for their divorce? Specifically, how does the diagnosis of autism contribute as a reason for divorce?

Fifty-two divorced parents who have a child with autism responded to a survey regarding their perceptions of divorce and autism. While 78% of respondents said they divorced after their child was diagnosed, and overwhelmingly 76% of the respondents said that autism was not the primary cause of their divorce. Although the majority of respondents did not consider autism a main cause of divorce, 50% did consider autism to be a contributing factor for the divorce.

Marriage is Divine thought 4 Human

And the Lord God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." . . . So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, He took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib (side) he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man. (Gen 2:18, 21 22)

Why did God do it that way? Why create one being and then take a part of that being and create a second, differentiated yet complimentary being who is "bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh," a being who is sexually, emotionally and in other ways different, yet of his own substance? Upon seeing her, Adam could have observed, "It's me . . . but not me." Well, if you think about it, it does sound like the kind of thing you might expect a Trinity to do.

The Trinity (Father, Son, Holy Spirit) is a family, and thus man in God's image must be made a family as well. Therefore, a man cannot completely realize the essence of his existence until he learns to exist with someone and for someone. Both relationship and communion are crucial to this process.

And so we see from Genesis 1 and 2 that God created woman from the side of man so that the man would not be alone. From the teaching of the New Testament, saints have since discovered that He also created the Church from the side of the second Adam—Christ—for the same reason—for intimate fellowship.

Back in the Genesis account, we note that the newly created Eve was Adam — his very flesh and bone, and for that reason, the Bible says, Adam called her woman, and, for that reason a man is to leave mother and father and be united to his wife to become one flesh (v24).

For what reason is man to marry a wife? Because woman was originally a constituent part of man, she must return to become one with him again, so that the full expression and design of God's image in human beings can be revealed.

Here we have another parallel between the Old Testament type and the New Testament fulfillment. Eve was to reunite with her source and become one with him—just as we are with Christ, as He prayed in John 17. Sexuality, therefore, is a prefigurement of the intimate relationship that God desires to have with man. In fact, the marital union and covenant, in all its dimensions, is meant to gloriously reveal the very image of God in ways that we can only begin to understand.

Ah, but there's more to this mystery than can be seen on the surface. The union of a man and a woman in Holy Matrimony is not literally the permanent recombining of two bodies into one. This is mystery that reaches depths of meaning beyond what our present intellectual capacity can grasp.

Clearly however, what woman is as a part of man is not tied to individuated pieces of flesh and bone, but is far broader and more profound than that. She is the necessary compliment to him that together reveals the glory of the image of God in humanity. Her parts and his parts each have their own order and function. Together and rightly ordered, their united differences ignite the power and glory of creation itself, which is the consummate activity of God from the beginning.

So God does a two stage creation of man. First he makes the full orbed being (Adam, which in the Hebrew means, mankind). Then in phase two, God removes woman from Adam's side and makes Eve a separate being, though of Adam's substance, designed to ultimately reunite to her source through the mystery of Holy Matrimony.

And the spark, the power of that union is meant to gloriously reveal the very image of God to angels and archangels and all the company of heaven and earth. That is why Satan fights tooth and nail to pervert and distort rightly ordered human sexuality, holy matrimony, the family, and fatherhood in particular.

In fact, the amount of time and effort that Satan expends to destroy the image of God reflected in marriage, fatherhood and human sexuality is a barometer of just how incredibly important it is to God's plan and the expression of His glory.

Beloved, there is a profound and awesome reason for the way God ordered the creation of man—one that is commented on throughout Scripture, and one that we must observe if we are to find the fulfillment of our very being as humans. It is ordered as the union of a man and a woman in marriage—heterosexual and monogamous—an order that Jesus unambiguously reaffirmed in Matthew.